Help Me Live : 20 Things People with Cancer Want You to Know (REV EXP) By Hope, Lori Publisher : Celestial Arts Published Date : 2011/09 Binding : Paperback ISBN : 9781587611490 BookWeb Price : MYR 60.78 Kinokuniya Privilege Card member price : MYR 54.70 Availability Status : Available for order from suppliers. Usually dispatches within 3 weeks. Language : English

 
Foreword                                           xi
          Rachel Naomi Remen
Preface to the Revised Edition                     1  (6)
Introduction                                       7  (8)
  Part I 20 Things People with Cancer Want You
  to Know
    1 "It's okay to say or do the `wrong'          15 (8)
    thing."
    2 "I need to know you're here for me, but      23 (7)
    if you can't be, you can still show you
    care."
    3 "I like to hear success stories, not         30 (7)
    horror stories."
    4 "I am terrified and need to know you'll      37 (7)
    forgive me if I snap at you or bite your
    head off."
    5 "I need you to listen to me and let me       44 (11)
    cry."
    6 "Asking my permission can spare me pain."    55 (8)
    7 "I need to laugh---or just forget about      63 (9)
    cancer for a while!"
    8 "I need to feel hope, but telling me to      72 (15)
    think positively can make me feel worse."
    9 "I want you to respect my judgment and       87 (10)
    treatment decisions."
    10 "I want you to give me an opening to        97 (4)
    talk about cancer, and then take my lead."
    11 "I want compassion, not pity."              101(7)
    12 "Advice may not be what I need, and it      108(7)
    can hurt more than help. Try comforting me
    instead."
    13 "I am still me; treat me kindly, not        115(6)
    differently."
    14 "If you really want to help me, be          121(6)
    specific about your offer, or just help
    without asking."
    15 "I love being held in your thoughts or      127(6)
    prayers."
    16 "Hearing platitudes or what's good about    133(6)
    cancer can minimize my feelings."
    17 "I don't know why I got cancer, and         139(5)
    hearing your theory may add grave insult to
    injury."
    18 "Don't take it personally if I don't        144(7)
    return your call or want to see you."
    19 "I need you to offer support to my          151(8)
    caregiver, because that helps me, too."
    20 "I don't know if I'm cured, and bringing    159(6)
    up my health can bring me down."
      And one more thing...
    21 "I am more grateful than I can say for      165(6)
    your care, compassion, and support."
  Part II A Quick Guide to Cancerquette
    22 The 2010/2011 Survey                        171(19)
    23 Different Kinds of Cancer                   190(5)
    24 Cancer through the Stages                   195(9)
    25 Cancer in Different Circumstances           204(5)
    26 Cancer at Different Ages                    209(16)
    27 She Wants/He Wants: Cancer and Gender       225(9)
    28 Cancer and Cultural Background              234(5)
    29 Other Situations, Complications, and        239(5)
    Conditions
    30 The Lists: Do's, Don'ts, Tools, and         244(12)
    Treasures
    31 How to Listen                               256(2)
    32 The Cheat Sheet                             258(2)
    33 For Survivors: Hoping and Coping in a       260(3)
    World of Uncertainty
Afterword                                          263(4)
Acknowledgments                                    267(2)
Index                                              269